I’d like to take this opportunity to welcome you to my new blog, The Quest Forever.
I’ve been blogging on and off for the last 5 years. My posting lagged quite a bit the last year or two, and I felt I had outgrown the conceit of my previous blog. It was focused mostly on my personal stories of dating and sex, the trials and tribulations I faced, and lessons I learned along the way.
In looking back, I realized that some of the content felt stale, and didn’t accurately reflect the perspective I have today. Even the name of the blog felt limiting, although it had always been intended as a light-hearted way to give my writing an overarching plot-line. By “evolving” into The Quest Forever, I intend to use this new title as a mission statement.
What is The Quest Forever?
It is the knowledge that our knowledge is never complete. In recent years, I reached a point in my life where I felt burned out. It seemed like I had built a complete understanding of men and women, dating, love and sex, and didn’t have much more to gain.
Then reality shook me up again, and showed me that “when you think you’ve reached the end… that’s the beginning.”
The truth is, our work is never done. We can never just turn off, coast, and wait to die. We must continually grow and renew ourselves. But this is not a burden. It is a gift, an opportunity. There are infinite ways to change, and to improve. To stagnate or take the easy way out is to die.
When we have these fleeting moments of clarity, we must use them to spark a permanent change. I’ve always been inspired to share my perspective in order to entertain, inspire, and help other people. This gives me great joy, and I want to give myself fully to that pursuit and see how bright the fire can burn.
The Quest Forever is the honoring of my past, but also a broader journey forward. It’s not just about “getting girls,” but being a complete man. In the end, we are all responsible for taking care of ourselves in this world, and to be happy we must always be making progress. So it’s up to us to direct that path forward for ourselves, and there are many avenues for doing so.
It’s about having a spiritual base and a gratitude for the things in this world beyond human comprehension. It’s about loving ourselves fully, and with openness, so we don’t put up walls and can truly share with others. It’s about cultivating the inner strength and bravery to go after what we want in life, despite society (and even some of the people we love most) disapproving of our choices.
It’s about understanding ourselves and the world fully, so we can be most empowered to achieve our goals and manifest our vision for the world.
I won’t be writing this blog to turn a profit. It exists because I have things that I need to say. And I have a hell of a great time saying them.
I will be adding some new ventures this year, such as writing books, building my coaching business, and continuing the podcast. But the main mission of my blog will always remain separate and above them.
I won’t be writing this blog to make myself look good. I’ve always written from the standpoint of wanting to share honest things about myself and my life. I’ve written in the past about times I was going through real challenges and grappling with certain issues, and I know that every one of you reading this can relate.
If someone didn’t write honestly about their struggles, we’d all keep going around in one big circle jerk, and we’d all feel even worse about our situations because we would believe we were facing them alone. Of course, there are also plenty of times I enjoy telling entertaining stories, or sharing positive experiences and advice from my life.
So, ultimately, why do I write this blog? What is my mission in this renewed push to reinvigorate my blogging career? My mission is nothing short of changing the world.
I am a humanist. I always was, even when I experienced great pain in my life caused by the actions or bullying of others. I have always believed in the transcendent power of this Universe, something that unites all of us as human beings. Our superficial personal struggles, even our very personalities, are just a thin surface on much deeper and more powerful forces. Elemental, eternal forces. And I believe that is a beautiful thing.
The “Manosphere” and its different iterations over the years have solidified my philosophy of humanism. I believe the most compassionate thing we can do is to live in harmony with our nature as humans, so that the most people can find peace and meaning in their lives. I want to help people understand the sickness of our modern civilization, so that even on a small scale, someone, somewhere, will know a better way forward. I want to create small ripples, and maybe someday they will turn into waves.
And that is a journey that we as human beings might just be on Forever.